6 Reasons Why You Should not Fake an Orgasm
Have you been there for a long time – an hour? two hours? three hours? – juggling during a sexual relationship. Your partner has already reached orgasm and has recovered.
Or, it is not so much that you are “in action”, but this action is so discouraged that you would like to put an end to this bummer?
Who knows, sex is even pleasurable and your partner is struggling a lot, but for some reason, you can not fully relax and you’re not getting there.
Whatever the reason, feigning an orgasm may seem like a good way to end a bland sexual relationship or to disappoint a dedicated partner.
It may even be that the lie works at first, but if it becomes a habit, you will come out at a great disadvantage – and your partner as well. Here are some consequences of this practice:
1. You are Losing the Health Benefits
Orgasm causes the release of several well-connected neurotransmitters, such as dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin.
These substances are able to improve sleep, relieve pain, decrease anxiety, strengthen the immune system and favor concentration. By faking an orgasm, you fail to enjoy all these benefits.
2. Pretending orgasm harms the sex of everyone
Even more if you decide to pretend because the partner is bad of bed! As you may know, many men “learn” the functioning of the female body through pornographic videos – that is, endless penetration and two seconds of clitoral stimulation .
Pretending to have an orgasm because the partner is commanding very badly reinforces this idea. If he is your fixed partner, you will suffer from bad sex. If you are a casual partner, other women will have the same problem. That is, widespread frustration!
3. Your partner will continue to do wrong
When we reach true orgasm, we are signaling to the partner what kinds of stimulation actually give us pleasure. Partners who are connected can capture these signals and understand each other’s body more and more.
But by faking an orgasm, your partner will pick up the wrong message and will continue to repeat actions that do not result in real pleasure for you. After all, he thinks it works!
4. Pretending is dishonest
If it’s a one-night stand, we even understand. However, if you are pretending to orgasm with your fixed partner, with whom you have an affective relationship, this can be dishonest.
Think backwards: the partner may even have the best of intentions and feign an orgasm to not hurt you, but you would probably feel cheated if you found out after months (or years!) That all those reactions of pleasure were false.
5. Sex turns to obligation
Biologically speaking, orgasm is a mechanism that motivates us to want to have sex again. When the fact that you do not reach orgasm becomes a routine, sex becomes frustrating and you end up losing interest – that is, it becomes an obligation.
When you have orgasms with your partner, it means that you were relaxed, sexually present, and connected to him. Without the orgasm, you have none of that.
6. You forget your own pleasure
When you fake an orgasm, you are convincing yourself that your pleasure is not so important. Well, know that he is! Do not think that you “are taking too long” (each person has their time) and that it is better to let it go.
By faking an orgasm, you take away the possibility of pleasure and deprive your partner of the opportunity to give pleasure to you. You may end up losing the intimacy and bond that orgasms create between the couple.
Of course, orgasm should not be an obligation in every sexual relationship, but simply giving up pleasure just to please the partner will not do you or the relationship well. So enough to pretend!